SuperMom’s Cape is Ripped (Or, the Truth About Motherhood)

There was a moment during the first day of filming The Mama Sagas that will always stick with me.

I was talking to a mom of an 8 day old, and I asked her, “What do you wish someone had told you about being a mom before you had your baby?”

After a quick second, she looked at me and said, “The truth.”

We both laughed… And as any mom will tell you, it’s funny because it’s TRUE.

I’ve been floundering through motherhood since the moment I got this gig, and I suspect a lot of you might feel the same. To me, motherhood is like walking through a strange, dark room with your arms out like a zombie, trying to find a light, without banging your head or your knee into anything sharp.  You feel all at once like a huge klutz and a complete a-hole, with a little irrational fear thrown into the mix. But then, when you find that light – AHA!!! All is right in the world. You can conquer anything.


Raising kids is the highest stakes game out there. We all want to do the best job we possibly can, and we push forward, despite the fact that we are faced with daily experiences that humble us, terrify us, break us down or make us want to vomit. Becoming a mom isn’t something that happens in 9 months. It is something that happens constantly – continuously – each and every day after giving birth.

I, too, wish someone could have told me the truth: how I would be constantly outsmarted by a 2 year old, how I would never be able to run more than one errand at a time ever again, how I would be so exhausted I would try to open the front door with my key fab repeatedly, how I would bathe in projectile vomit and even projectile poo. And that despite all of it, I would be just fine. It would have been nice to know that the picture perfect image of motherhood that we aspire to is nothing but an illusion.

And then I wish someone would have told me that the truth isn’t so scary. It’s pretty hilarious, actually. The imperfect moments are the ones worth remembering. They are the moments that make us laugh and show us our true strength. They are the moments that bond us to other women. They are the moments that remind us that we can, indeed, conquer anything (well, almost anything. There’s wine for the rest).

Tomorrow the first videos in The Mama Sagas series go live. I am incredibly excited to give moms a forum to share their stories and celebrate the truth of motherhood.  I hope you enjoy the stories as much as I have enjoyed filming them, and I hope it inspires you to celebrate the raw beauty of imperfection, in yourself and in others. After all, we’re all just trying to find the light.

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The Mama Sagas

When I was pregnant with my daughter, I prepared for everything I possibly could. I thought I had all my ducks in a row. But from the moment I entered the hospital it became clear that becoming a mom is a wild ride and preparation is impossible. There are things no one tells you and no one shares – maybe because they are afraid of scaring you, or afraid of embarrassing themselves or inviting unwelcome judgment. As a result, many women experience moments of panic, isolation, or desperation after our babies are born or adopted. Some women feel terrified or confused or lost…. and women who don’t have close friends or family or good resources may feel like they have nowhere to turn. Even when our kids get older, we tend to sugar coat our realities when talking to other moms. We rarely talk about the things we feel might make us look like bad moms – like for instance the fact that sometimes my daughter refuses to eat anything but pancakes and syrup (ahem, last night).

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But motherhood is certainly not all rainbows and butterflies. It’s poop and vomit and tears and saggy skin and uncontrollable laughter. It’s real and raw and messy. For generations, we have tried to achieve a standard of perfection – Super Mom status. But in doing so we haven’t shared the things that would help each other the most- the real challenges that actually make us super moms. We haven’t talked about how to stop peeing our pants when we run, or how having sex for the first time after giving birth can be terrifying… or less than impressive.
I want to change that. I want to celebrate real moms and real moments, and provide quick, accessible, and credible expert answers to our most pressing questions. Because the truth is, when you enter into motherhood you enter into a tribe of heroes. Moms give of themselves beyond measure and sacrifice themselves – almost to a fault. They find balance amidst chaos. They surf the waves of unpredictability with grace and persistence. They wear their vulnerabilities on their sleeve and chase a standard of excellence they know their families deserve. An instinctive fire burns within their souls, fighting for whatever it takes to give their little ones the best the world has to offer. It’s time we tell our stories, and share the real heroism that is motherhood.
In the next few weeks, we will unveil the first of many video clips celebrating everyday moms. We will find the answers to the questions that keep you up at night. And if we are doing anything right, we will make you laugh. If you’d like to be a part of this patchwork of heroes, email me at themamasagas@gmail.com to find out our next shoot dates. We have stories to tell.